What many people do not recognize is that managing anger is a skill. While the emotion of anger is experienced throughout all humanity, the expression of the emotion varies greatly, depending on ones learned coping skills.
Without good coping skills, unbridled anger can become dangerous and devastating in relationships. Like any skill, it must first be taught, assimilated, then practiced many times. Then the skill should be monitored by a professional for guidance or suggestions. Learning to manage anger is like learning to play golf, you must first learn proper technique, then practice repetitively until mastered.
Skills might include improving communication, empathy, judgment and impulse control, expectations and stress management. These skills can be effectively learned by taking an anger management class
or online anger management class
, or through one/one anger management coaching by a trained professional. Anger management should be viewed as an educational intervention aimed at improving ones interpersonal skills.
Again, I use the word "skills" because that is what anger management is all about, skill enhancement. One will not master how to better control their anger response through magic. It happens with hard work and diligence at practicing the skills taught in a quality program.
Managing anger is also about ones own anger not the other persons. Try as you might, you can not control other people. There is nothing you can do to improve someone else's behavior. This type of training is all about self-improvement. The better you represent yourself to the ones around you, the better chance you have of the interaction being positive!